"in love for just one night"

Searching dark shadows for beautiful eyes

Hoping to find love in it's infinite disguise

Early mornings, dark nights

Rainy Sundays, ecstatic flights

Locking doors and shedding skins

Opening your heart and legs, letting someone in.

Flesh against flesh in an unchoreographed dance

of emotions, pulsations

inhibitions and gyrations

Hands, arms, skin, lips

Legs, feet, eyes and hips

Abs under fingers

Lips on toes linger

tongues over nipples

moans and low giggles

Breasts and napes and backs and thighs

Six packs, and biceps and green eyes that sigh

to be held down by arms of desire

to be oppressed by fists of loneliness and fire.

No names, no faces, no love or life stories

Lights off, dark shadows, lone voices don't worry

Love starved strangers...Mr. or Mrs. Right

You shower, they leave and you've been loved...

for Just one night.

** photo courtesy of splash bar

*** tyler kroetsch and teddy alexandro-evans

Alice, does everybody cheat?

Dearest Alice,

How are you dahling? How was your summer at the Jersey Shore? Fun in the sun debauchery, as planned?...I certainly hope so.

Speaking of MTV's Jersey Shore, I was watching an episode and Ron said something that has stuck with me. He was trying to explain why he cheated on Sammi, and his explanation went something like this. "Everybody Cheats". Granted it's a weak excuse from a weak minded individual but was it accurate? Alice, does EVERYBODY cheat?

Speaking from experience, I know I have strayed more than once, usually in retaliation of a cheating partner, but can we really make a blanket statement that everyone strays? I suppose each circumstance is different. Some, like myself, cheat for revenge. Some cheat because they're in a loveless marriage. Some cheat because they're allowed to. Others cheat just because the opportunity presents itself, but there has to be someone who looks at infidelity and says...'No Thank you."

It is proven that men cheat more frequently and women cheat for longer durations. Meaning, a man will cheat with the waitress, the stewardess, his secretary, his next door neighbors wife, and one of his poker buddies, but a woman will find one partner, and have a long term affair with them. Two totally different concepts but adultery nonetheless.

So what do you think, Alice, is Ron right? Eventually, do we all fall victim to infidelity?

Which brings me to my next question. What...or whom did YOU do this summer? :)

Until Next Time Alice dahling,

All My Love.

The Alexandro Corporation

Alice, it's just a condom, what's the big deal?

Dear Alice,

Happy summer! are you enjoying your vacation? Remember sunblock, sunblock sunblock. we must protect our skin!

Speaking of protection, Alice dahling, what's the big deal with condoms? How can such a small item be the topic of such heated debate?

I think it goes without saying, condoms save lives. Point blank, period! However, people literally hate using them!!! I don't get it.

The allure of unprotected sex, must be tantamount to a drug. You know you shouldn't do it, you know it's bad...but the act itself is so taboo, it's almost impossible to resist.

I think we all have had a slip here and there at some point in our lives, so no one should pass judgment. However to others, the "slip" is a way of life. Maybe not one they will admit to, but one they partake in when the lights go dim.

what is it Alice?

laziness? is rolling over to the top drawer really THAT strenuous?

Price? For heaven's sake, they give them out free at the Diary Queen!!

discomfort? granted if a man is particularly well endowed, a condom may feel constricting, and conversely if someone is hung like a light switch, there's nothing worse the a saggy condom.

or is it familiarity? a long time mate, or sex with an ex. "i know this person, i don't have to use condoms" so you hit it raw and granted it feels awesome...until 6 weeks later when penicillin and prayer become your two best friends.

Back in the day, in the words of Cher, "3 months later i'm a gal in trouble"...pregnancy was the worst case scenario. Now...well, we all know what today's unprotected sex can bring.

So Alice, what do you think? Condoms, yea or neigh?

Alice, Who's afraid of the big bad wolf?

Dearest Alice,

First of all i would like to thank you for the flowers you sent me, regarding my most recent break up. Thankfully it's over, and I came out of it, with only a few battle scars and lessons learned.

It seems Jeremy, kept a fork in his mouth, but couldn't keep his mouth off of other boys...

However Alice, this blog will not be about the Belgian whore of Babylon. I would like to talk about "Predators". who are the predators? what they do? and how we compete with them.

Recently I was sitting in a restaurant with someone, and the discussion came to them wanting me to meet their friend. Initially, I was fine with the idea, until i was told that he was "attractive" and he was "black".

In my opinion, Alice, there is no more dangerous predator than the attractive black man.

now as i write this I've all ready angered hundreds of my readers but in my experience, with relationships...it's usually another black man standing across the ring from me, ready to do battle.

Once upon a time, I was a not-so-nice person, and during those times i had the weapons of youth, and beauty on my side, which we know is a dangerous combination. Add to that the manipulative intellectual i was, and I myself was a predator. So when I'm in a situation, i can smell another predator like a wolf who has marked it's territory.

Now I know what you're thinking, Alice, "all men can be predators". You're correct, Alice. But none are more cunning, more smooth, more sly, more brazen, more audacious, then my fellow bruthas.

They can manipulate a situation or a person before it's even realized.

-You can go to a club, holding your girls hand, and literally a black man will grab her other hand. LOL. I just can't see a 5 foot 5 Asian trying that shit.

- The film "Mandingo" comes to mind. When she wanted to piss her husband off, who did she call for?...Mead! The biggest, sexiest black slave on the plantation.

- and Need I mention the Down Low phenomenon? somehow a white boy in baggy, sagging jeans, a wife beater and timbs, with 3 baby mamas, living in his mother's basement, sneaking boys in late at night. is more comical than sexy.

Using myself as an example, when i wanted something, I would do anything to get it. Lie, Cheat, seduce, short of killing someone i was tenacious when it came to matters of a sexual nature.

Girls, straight boys, people in relationships. no one was off limits if I wanted their attention. now I'm not saying i merely snapped my fingers and people flocked to me. what i'm saying is, i manipulated situations to my favor and no matter how long it took, i was unrelenting. I heard the word NO plenty of times...but after a six pack, the word no slowly slurs into a "fine...go ahead".

Now as I'm older, more mature, less predatory, i find myself not wanting to deal with competition anymore. Originally there was a 'ban" on other men sniffing round my kingdom. As ridiculous as THAT may be, i find it odd, when i'm cheated on, it's always with another black man. (Belgian whore of babylon included.) But now, i simply state my opinion and await the wolf's appearance...and reach for my metaphoric shotgun.

Until next time Alice

All My Best,

Little Red Riding Hood

when does a preference become a fetish?

Dear Alice,

I was reading the most fascinating article the other day about fetishes. It turns out that 90 percent of all preferences and fetishes stem from childhood experiences.

It makes sense, since most women marry their fathers! Not literally Alice, but they marry men who remind them of their fathers, and the scary bit is, some don't even realize it.

Most women who have tattooed, alcoholic, non committal boyfriends come from homes where their dads were tattooed alcoholics.

Good experiences or bad experiences shape our future. If a dog bites us when we are a child, chances are we will always be afraid of dogs. (or that particular breed) The same is said that if the first boy you had a crush on had a southern accent, you will most likely always have a soft spot for southern boys.

How did I not know this, it's so obvious!

A man who has a spanking fetish, had a nanny who spanked him when he was a child.

A girl likes burly handy man types, why, because she's a daddy's girl and pop was a handy man.

A guy sleeps with hundreds of women because his mother abandoned him.

A person who likes muscled men, may have been exposed to weight lifters or pro wrestlers at a young age...

Whoa!! I am gagging right now.

So it makes you look at yourself and wonder, what happened to me, good or bad, when I was younger, to make me fancy what I fancy?

When i was a young lad, the first woman I crushed on was WWF manager Miss Elizabeth. Pretty face, big hair, prone to slapping, and a glamorous air about her, and hello, she was a wrestler. Some things never change.

and on a personal note Alice, a boy in a t-shirt, jeans and flip flops STILL gets my undivided attention...but that's a story I'll tell another time.

So Alice, What do you like?...and why?

Until next time always yours,

Teddy